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  • Pet Peeves in Customer Service

    Why do car-rental companies charge so much for gasoline? Why do cellphone customers have to pay for incoming calls? Here are answers to these -- and other -- questions that make consumers go ballistic.
    October 30, 2006; Page R1

    (See Corrections & Amplifications item below.)

    Sometimes it's not the big mistakes companies make that alienate customers. It's the little mysteries.

    You order a piece of furniture, and the store tells you to expect the delivery between 9 and 5.

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    Why can't they be more precise than that? Why do you have to wait around all day? Or let's say you deposit a check at your bank and it takes days to clear. Why the delay? Then there are cellphones, where you get charged for calls you receive on your cellphone as well as calls you make. Why are the phone companies double-dipping?

    Answering those kinds of questions is a crucial test of a company's customer service. Yet more often than not, customers who ask for answers come away with vague explanations that leave them even more frustrated.

    With that in mind, we decided to find the real answers behind consumers' biggest pet peeves. Here are 10 of the most popular gripes, and the explanation -- or excuse -- that lies behind them.

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    1. When you call a customer-service line, an automated voice often asks you to punch in your account information. So why does the live operator ask you for that information all over again?

    There are a host of reasons. Sometimes there's a simple technical glitch, and your information doesn't appear on the operator's screen. In other cases, there's a method behind the questioning. You may punch in your account number incorrectly and not realize it, so the operator will ask you to confirm the information.

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    Or you may have two accounts listed under one code number, and the operator will need to determine which one you're calling about. Let's say your utility identifies you by your phone number. If you relocate, but keep your old phone number, the utility may show two accounts for that number -- an active one for your current residence and an inactive one for your previous home.

    Banks, meanwhile, generally ask for additional information -- such as a callback number -- to establish your identity no matter what you've punch in.

    That's largely because of guidance from the Office of the Comptroller of the Currency. In 2001, the comptroller's office advised banks to lay down safeguards to protect their customers' information from "pretexting," where criminals use pieces of your personal data, such as a Social Security number and address, to impersonate you on the phone and try to gain access to your account information.

    -- Lyneka Little

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    2. Why can't stores ever deliver an appliance or piece of furniture when they say they will? And why do I have to sit around all day waiting for them to show up?

    Stores usually don't like to give a specific time for a shipment because there are so many variables involved. Delivery trucks typically set out carrying orders for multiple homes in a wide area, and along the way, they can encounter any number of pitfalls. These range from all the regular headaches -- such as getting lost or stuck in traffic, or not being able to find a parking space -- to more specific delivery issues. For instance, discovering that a 12-person dining-room table can't fit through the front door. All of which adds up to customers sitting around on their floor for hours waiting for their new chairs.

    Now that's starting to change as stores try to keep an edge in an increasingly competitive market. Many outlets are taking a page from delivery giants United Parcel Service Inc. and FedEx Corp., using technology to guide their drivers and streamline warehouse operations.

    Global positioning systems in trucks, for instance, help drivers get where they're going without a hitch, and the latest software can estimate the time between each stop. And improved logistics in warehouses means that items can be loaded faster and in the order in which they are going to be taken off the truck. Beyond that, many companies now offer drivers financial incentives for timely dropoffs.

    Williams-Sonoma Inc.'s Pottery Barn recently shrank the window of delivery waiting time to two hours from four thanks to increased efficiency among its delivery vendors. Customers of New York electronics and appliance retailer P.C. Richard & Son can track their delivery via the company's Web site. Some places, such as Gallery Furniture in Houston, even offer same-day delivery, dropping off items past midnight if the customer requests.

    -- Sara Schaefer Muñoz

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    3. Why are public-address systems frequently inaudible? This isn't just a problem with antiquated speakers in subway stations. Brand-new sound systems in airports and other transportation hubs can also be impossible to hear.

    Blame it on simple acoustics. Airports and train platforms generally aren't built with sound in mind. Many feature large, open spaces and high ceilings, which cause sound to echo endlessly. They also use hard materials such as concrete, glass and tile that don't absorb sound well, causing it to reverberate further and become distorted, says Gary McAuliffe, a partner at Pelton Marsh Kinsella, a Dallas firm that advises airports and other locales on acoustics. "No sound system can overcome a bad acoustical environment," he says.

    On top of that, many transportation hubs don't implement their sound systems effectively. At airports, for instance, a public-address system at one gate often competes with those at nearby gates, as well as with television broadcasts, broader airport-wide announcements and crowd noise. Sometimes speakers are just aligned and set poorly, pointing at the walls instead of the crowds. Plus, there's human error. Announcers may hold the microphone too close or simply make no sense.

    Some airports and transit agencies are working to make their public addresses heard. The sound system at Reagan National Airport in Arlington County, Va., for instance, has ambient-noise sensors, so announcement volume is adjusted based on crowd noise. (New York's subway system has a similar feature in its newer cars.) The airport also has sound-absorbing material around the skylights, and speakers are directed toward the floor space, rather than the walls, in ticketing and other areas.

    Among the other sound-system features being installed at hubs, announcements are queued up in order of priority, so you're not bombarded with multiple announcements from different speakers at the same time. Some hubs use digitized public-address systems with recorded announcements that are clearer than regular voices. Some even use visual displays instead of, or along with, audio announcements.

    -- Jennifer Saranow

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    4. Why can't you buy a nonproprietary cellphone and use it with any carrier, the way you can do with a land line?

    Cellphone companies usually lock the devices for a couple of reasons. For one, they want you to stick to your contract. The carriers heavily subsidize the cost of the phone, so they want to make sure they're repaid in the form of service revenue. They also want to make sure they recoup the cost of testing the cellphones and applications.

    Then there's compatibility. Companies optimize cellphones and applications to work on their own networks. So a handset designed to work with a single carrier may not work well on another.

    To be sure, you can buy a nonproprietary cellphone, but it's not very easy or convenient to use, says John Jackson, formerly an analyst at Boston-based Yankee Group and now vice president of consulting services at M:Metrics Inc. He says Nokia Corp., for example, has opened a store in Chicago and will open another in New York that will sell customers an "unlocked" GSM phone -- the standard used by Cingular and T-Mobile in the U.S.

    Here's how you make it work. Let's say you have a two-year contract with Cingular or T-Mobile, and you received a phone for about $50 in the deal. You can pop out the SIM card from that phone -- a device that lets your phone get on your carrier's network -- and plug it into a fancier model you've purchased from the Nokia store. So you've upgraded your phone, but your current contract still applies.

    Mr. Jackson says he expects carriers will experiment a bit with unlocked phones, but not much. The current system, he says, has been critical to ensuring customer satisfaction and delivering optimized voice and data services. "I expect that we'll see pockets of enlightenment, but for now, there's no reason to think that nonproprietary phones will become a mainstream component of the U.S. cellular landscape," says Mr. Jackson.

    -- Sarmad Ali

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    5. How come banks immediately take money out of your account for debit- card transactions, but when it comes to depositing money it can take as long as five days for a check to clear and be posted to your account?

    While a debit is frequently an online transaction, "the process of depositing a check is typically not an online transaction," says Fritz Elmendorf of the Consumer Bankers Association, a trade group based in Arlington, Va. "For the most part, the paper check is physically carried back to the bank of origination." And that takes time.

    Also, your bank may be able to, say, take a photo of every check it receives and email it to the bank of origin for clearing. But that bank may not have the ability to receive and open the image.

    Beyond that, banks take a long time "because they can," says Ed Mierzwinski, consumer program director of the U.S. Public Interest Research Group, a watchdog group in Washington. The time frame for clearing checks is covered under a 1987 law called the Expedited Funds Availability Act. Banks typically have two business days to clear local checks and five business days to clear nonlocal checks. (But there are exceptions to the rules; for more information, check out consumersunion.org.)

    For the time being, there's no change in sight. A bill introduced in Congress last year by Rep. Carolyn Maloney (D., N.Y.) to shorten the deposit time has stalled. But there may be some reason for optimism on the technological front, as community banks adopt electronic check image clearing that may accelerate the process. According to a study by the Independent Community Bankers of America, 14% of community banks already clear checks using a digital image of the check, and 58% plan to adopt this method in the next 18 months.

    -- Lyneka Little

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    6. Why do you have to pay for incoming and out- going minutes on cellphones? Essentially, a cellphone carrier is collecting twice for one call -- from the caller and from the person receiving the call. Shouldn't only outgoing calls cost money?

    Look at it this way, telecom experts say: Carriers aren't collecting double the revenue on each call. They're collecting half the cost of the call from each party.

    In Europe, the caller pays the entire cost of the call -- but calls can cost twice as much as in the U.S. If U.S. carriers charged only one customer for the call, the average per-minute cost would effectively double. That would bring the average rate per minute in the U.S. to 13 cents rather than the six and a half cents customers have today.

    The lower cost is why the monthly minutes of use here are so high, says Marina Amoroso, an analyst at Yankee Group. The average in the U.S. is 800, compared with 300 to 400 in European markets.

    However, most carriers offer in-network calling free to their customers, often for an extra $3 or $4 a month. Meanwhile, some carriers have packaged their plans to allow for free incoming calls. This marketing tactic, of course, costs carriers money, but they are hoping it will make them look more attractive and competitive in the market. Sprint Nextel Corp., for example, offers Sprint Free Incoming plans that charge only for outgoing minutes on cellphones. This plan starts at $49.99 for 300 outgoing minutes, plus unlimited incoming minutes and unlimited night and weekend minutes.

    -- Sarmad Ali

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    7. Why do rental-car companies charge so much money to put gas in the tank, forcing travelers to drive around near airports looking for a normal gas station so they don't get gouged? Also, why is rental-car insurance so confusing? You already have insurance through your credit- card company or your own auto insurer, so why do they try to sell you double coverage?

    "You aren't paying for fuel," says Neil Abrams, president of the car-rental consultancy Abrams Consulting Group Inc. in Atlanta. Rental agencies set the price high to deter clients from bringing back vehicles with an empty tank and thus offset the steep cost of refueling.

    Rental agencies don't have efficient systems for shipping and storing fuel and gassing up vehicles en masse, says Mr. Abrams. Some companies don't even keep gas on site, so an employee has to drive the car to another location to fill it up. And a rental agency's goal is to get the car out to the next customer as quickly as possible; if the agency has to take time to refuel a car, the lost revenue and labor costs are huge, Mr. Abrams says.

    Still, most rental agencies do offer a pre-pay refuel option at the time of rental so the customer can bring back the car empty and pay for a tank of gas at a price close to local market rates. Those few additional cents on each gallon can help to offset labor costs, since the average renter never brings back a tank bone dry, says Michael Kane, president of Vehicle Replacement Consulting Group Inc. in Royal Oak, Mich.

    Why do rental agencies push insurance so hard? Largely, it comes down to boosting revenue. Agencies can't really afford to give you a car for $17 a day, says Mr. Kane. The companies need to offer that kind of low rental price to stay competitive, but they then need to make up the lost revenue. So they turn to extras like insurance -- which is highly profitable if most people don't get in accidents.

    Rental insurance is confusing for another reason: Lots of people actually do want it, so rental agencies offer lots of different policies to cover their needs. For instance, says Mr. Abrams, many people do in fact come to the counter without their own car insurance and need coverage. Others buy the protection so they can minimize the hassle of dealing with their insurance company or the car-rental company if they're involved in an accident, says Richard Broome, a spokesman for Hertz Corp.

    Mr. Abrams says many of the companies he works with are focusing on training employees to explain insurance options more clearly. But he recommends knowing exactly how you are covered by your own car insurance or credit card when you arrive at the counter, and buy accordingly. "Buyer beware," he says.

    -- Sarah Nassauer

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    8. If companies are allowed to sell personal information about you to third-party marketers, even without your consent, why can't you just sell your own information directly to marketers?

    It's a matter of scale. Marketers are hungry for aggregate data on hundreds of thousands -- or millions -- of customers which they slice and dice to create subscriber mailing lists or use to conduct market research. While hunting for big trends or attempting to reach a massive population -- such as everyone who just graduated from high school or who recently finalized a mortgage -- one person's personal information is useless, and companies won't pay for it.

    Instead, marketers turn to middlemen, whose activities are largely invisible to the consumer. Marketers purchase the records from big database companies like ChoicePoint Inc. or Acxiom Corp., which get their data from public records, credit bureaus or other companies consumers do business with.

    While individuals can't profit from brokering their own information, they sometimes have control over the degree to which others can. Financial-services companies, for instance, are required by law to allow customers to opt out of having nonpublic personal information -- which could include their Social Security number and income -- shared with nonaffiliated third parties. Many businesses, particularly online businesses that require registration, allow their customers to specify the types of information they don't want shared with partners and affiliates, including marketers.

    Consumers can also give businesses a "disposable" email address, which forwards to a main address and can be disabled if it starts sending spam. You can obtain such email addresses through a broad range of spam-filtering companies and leading email services like Yahoo.

    -- Jessica E. Vascellaro

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    9. Why is mobile directory assistance so unreliable? It seems that when you call from your cellphone, they can never find the number you need.

    Two big reasons. First, most cellphone companies outsource directory assistance to different companies. The accuracy of the answer you get is limited by the accuracy of the database the company uses for its lookups. And these can vary dramatically. Michael King, an analyst at Gartner Inc., suggests there should be a single directory that all the companies use.

    Second, directory assistance may be hampered by the poor quality of cellphone connections. There's often a lot of static and drops, which means the operator may end up guessing what listing you want.

    -- Sarmad Ali

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    10. Why are items in hotel minibars so expensive? Do candy bars and bottles of water really have to cost $5? While we're at it, why do cheap and midprice hotels often provide wireless access free, while expensive hotels charge for it?

    Hotels price minibar goodies competitively with other items within the hotel, not with a convenience store down the road. So if a Coke is $8 at the hotel lounge, it will be close to that price in the minibar.

    Moreover, the traditional minibar carries high overhead. An employee must check what has been removed every day and refill accordingly. And many people take items and then try to avoid paying -- by, say, replacing a snack with a similar item from a store -- which boosts the cost for everyone else.

    The high prices are driving the minibar out of midprice hotels; most budget-minded travelers just won't pay $7 for a bag of peanuts anymore. The service is usually replaced by a small store near the front desk or enhanced vending machines. But high-end hotels are keeping minibars, which are seen as a premium service that clients are willing to shell out for. "It's like paying $28 for a steak that cost the restaurant $10," says Richard Williams, president of HVS International Food & Beverage Services, an industry consultancy in New York.

    As for Wi-Fi: Midprice hotels are usually in newer buildings than expensive hotels, so they can be wired for Internet from the start. This means start-up money can be set aside for the project, while existing hotels have to raise the capital. And it costs less to incorporate wiring into a new building than to retrofit an old one.

    In addition, most business travelers -- the primary Wi-Fi users -- stay in midprice hotels, so operators can justify the cost with room sales. More-expensive hotels rent fewer rooms to business travelers, but host more business conferences, so Wi-Fi users will generate only as much revenue as they spend while visiting the hotel for the conference -- maybe a cup of coffee.

    But competition is the defining element. The midprice-hotel market in North America is highly competitive. If one hotel chain offers free Wi-Fi, everyone else has to, says Mr. Williams. High-end hotels aren't feeling the pressure just yet, but Mr. Williams predicts it is on the way as more people get used to free Wi-Fi in cafes and other public places.

    --Ms. Little, Ms. Schaefer Munoz, Ms. Saranow, Mr. Ali, Ms. Nassauer and Ms. Vascellaro are staff reporters in The Wall Street Journal's New York bureau. They can be reached, respectively, at lyneka.little@wsj.com, sara.schaefer-munoz@wsj.com, jennifer.saranow@wsj.com, sarmad.ali@wsj.com, sarah.nassauer@wsj.com and jessica.vascellaro@wsj.com.

    Corrections & Amplifications:

    Abrams Consulting Group Inc. is in Purchase, N.Y. This article incorrectly said the firm is based in Atlanta.

  • Seven Wonders of Financial Foolishness
    November 12, 2006

    We may not agree on what investors should do. But I think we can agree on what they shouldn't do.

    Take a look below, where I have listed seven common financial gaffes, some big, some small. No doubt a few insurance agents, credit-card executives and Wall Street brokers will quibble with my list. But I think the rest of us can agree that these are seven truly foolish mistakes.

    1 Missing the match

    Vanguard Group, the Malvern, Pa., mutual-fund company, recently released a report analyzing the 401(k) and other "defined contribution" plans it oversees. One finding: 36% of eligible employees haven't signed up.

    That is a horrifying statistic. It isn't simply that these folks may not be saving any money for retirement and they are missing out on both a tax deduction and tax-deferred growth.

    To make matters worse, these employees are likely passing up free money. Many 401(k)s match employee contributions at a rate of, say, 50 cents on the $1. If you don't put in your $1, you don't get the free 50 cents from your employer.

    2 Rolling the dice

    Even if you participate in your employer's retirement plan, you could still mess up royally, by making bad investment choices.

    Indeed, many employees make the most elementary mistake, which is failing to diversify. Vanguard found that 13% of 401(k) participants have everything in bonds and money-market funds and another 19% have everything in stocks.

    Moreover, in plans that currently offer company stock as an investment option, an astonishing 15% of employees invest more than 80% of their account in their company's shares. Betting that much on a single company is absurdly risky, especially so when you're relying on the same company for a paycheck.

    3 Paying the penalty

    With retirement accounts, there's a third crucial mistake: Cashing out the account before age 59½. That not only takes a big chunk out of your nest egg, but also it triggers income taxes and usually a tax penalty as well.

    Yet many folks make this error when they leave their employer. Vanguard calculates that, at that juncture, 29% of 401(k) plan participants take part or all of their account balance as a lump sum, rather than leaving the money in their old employer's plan or rolling it over to another tax-deferred account.

    To be sure, some people taking the lump sum may end up investing the money. But the odds are, the money gets spent, a heap of taxes gets paid -- and their retirement is suddenly much further away.

    4 Taxing yourself

    Paying unnecessary taxes is bad news. But you also don't want to end up paying no taxes at all.

    Suppose you're out of work for a long spell or you just retired at age 60, and you are living off money in your savings account. Because you don't have a paycheck coming in, it's entirely possible that you will owe little or nothing in taxes.

    That might sound appealing. But in truth, it isn't smart money management, especially if you figure you will be in a higher tax bracket once you start working again or once you begin drawing down your retirement accounts and collecting Social Security.

    Let's say you are married and you file a joint tax return. If you take the standard deduction and one personal exemption each, you could have $16,900 in income and pay no federal taxes. The next $15,100 of income, which would bring your total income to $32,000, would be taxed at just 10%. In fact, you could have total income of $78,200 and still be in the 15% income-tax bracket.

    My advice: If you expect to be in the 25% or higher tax bracket once you return to work or once you start tapping your retirement accounts, you might want to take advantage of your low tax bracket today by, say, selling stocks with capital gains or by converting part of your individual retirement account to a Roth IRA.

    5 Insuring the affordable

    Prudent folks purchase insurance to cover disasters so potentially devastating that they couldn't possibly afford the financial hit without major hardship.

    What if people aren't so prudent? Consider trip-cancellation insurance and extended warranties. Sure, if you have to bag the trip to Europe or if your television goes into meltdown, it will cost you some money and it won't be pleasant. But it is hardly a financial disaster.

    Similarly, there is no point in having low deductibles on your auto and homeowner's policies. If you put a $700 ding in your car, you can probably cover the cost fairly easily out of your own pocket, so there really isn't much point in paying an insurer to shoulder this risk.

    The same thinking applies to insurance on your children's lives. The principal reason for buying life insurance is to ensure your family isn't left financially destitute when one member dies.

    Yes, if a child dies, it is a terrible loss. But it isn't a terrible financial loss, so there's no reason to have insurance on a child's life.

    6 Carrying a balance

    According to the Federal Reserve, the average interest rate levied on credit-card accounts is closing in on 15%. That's a steep price to pay, particularly given that credit-card interest isn't tax-deductible.

    Conceivably, you might carry a credit-card balance if paying down your cards meant you wouldn't have the money to fund a 401(k) with an employer match. But otherwise, carrying a credit-card balance is financial lunacy, and you should do everything possible to get your cards paid off.

    7 Locking yourself in

    If you and your spouse are age 65, there is a decent chance that one of you will live until age 90. That means you need to think like long-term investors, including continuing to keep a healthy portion of your portfolio in stocks.

    But that doesn't mean you should buy investments with long surrender charges, which is often the case with tax-deferred variable annuities, mutual-fund B shares and equity-indexed annuities. After all, you are tapping your portfolio for income and you need the flexibility to sell at any time without paying hefty commissions.

    Got a salesman trying to sell you a product with a back-end sales charge? Just say no.

Tuesday, 17 April 2007

  • http://kreesor.blogspot.com/2006/11/nine-tips-for-investing-in-happiness.html

    Nine Tips for Investing in Happiness

     

    NINE TIPS FOR INVESTING IN HAPPINESS

    If you want to be happier, forget spending dollars - and focus on how you spend your time. Sure, a bigger house and a fancier car might briefly put a smile of your face. Yet academic studies suggest that simply amassing more stuff won't bring a permanent increase in your happiness. So what will? I dug through some of the work done by economists and psychologists, and came up with these nine tips.

    1. Make time for friends. According to a 2006 report by the Pew Research Center in Washington, 43% of married people say they are "very happy", versus 24% for those who aren't. "Married people spend less time alone," notes David Schkade, a management professor at the University of California at San Diego. "There are parts of your brain that are stimulated by the presence of other people. You're more active and energetic and engaged." For the same reason, seeing good friends on a regular basis can also bolster happiness. "The data is coming in thick and fast on the value of friendships," says Andrew Oswalk, an economics professor at Warwick University in England. "The data suggest that making your friends a priority will have more bang for your buck than making your next promotion a priority," he notes.

    2. Forget the pay raise. While regularly hitting the town with friends will likely increase your happiness, you probably won't get the same boost from spending hours at the mall. True, you are initially thrilled when you buy that new dress or that flat-screen television. But the thrill quickly fades and you start hankering after something else. The same thing happens when you get a pay reiase. Soon enough, you are taking the extra money for granted and you're feeling dissatisfied again. Experts refer to this as "hedonic adaptation" or the "hedonic treadmill."

    3. Dont' trade up. Research indicates that, once folks achieve a fairly basic standard of living, it takes a lot of additional money to bring about even a small increase in reported happiness. Yet your income and wealth could still loom large - if you start comparing yourself with those around you. For instance, if you moved to a neighbourhood you can barely afford, you would likely be disgruntled. The reason: You will be surrounded by wealthy families, and that will be a constant reminder of your relative financial standing. "If you can look out your window and see the neighbours with lower incomes, you'll be happier," Prof. Oswald says. "People are very keen to move into the elite neighbourhoods. They don't realize that they won't be as happy as they expect. That's the curse of being human."


    4. Keep your commute short. Moving into a ritzy neighbourhood would be even more harmful to your happiness if it means a longer commute. It turns out that commuting is one of life's least pleasurable activities. While we're usually pretty good at adapting to hardships, it's hard to adjust to commuting because it is so unpredictable. One day, you will breeze into work. The next day, you will sit steaming in traffic for 45 minutes. To make matters worse, a longer commute means less time for leisure. And the research says we enjoy leisure more than work.

    5. Count your blessings. Your pleasure from your new house and your latest pay raise may subside. But you may be able to revive some of the good feelings by taking a few minutes to count your blessings. Remember how wealthy neighbours can make you feel poor? What matters is what you focus on. Instead of obsessing over your neighbour's riches, try focusing on the riches you have - and that will likely make you feel happier.

    6. Enjoy a good meal. In surveys, eating ranks as one of our favourite pastimes. "It's a relatively pleasant activity and it satisfies a basic need," Prof. Schkade notes. "But if you aren't focused on it, you won't enjoy it as much. This is why the French enjoy their food more. They are less likely to eat alone and they are less likely to be doing something else at the same time."

    7. Challenge yourself through exercise. Leisure is more pleasurable than work. but you should also think about how you spend your leisure time. After a long day at the office, you might be inclined to stagger home and collapse in front of your new flat-screen television. But in fact, the research suggests you'll be happier if you are more active. Suppose you start a new exercise program. The key : Set goals that are challenging yet achievable, because you will enjoy the sense of progress. Also look to change your exercise program occassionally, so the pleasure you receive doesn't start to fade. As an added bonus, regular exercise will leave you healthier, and that should further increase your happiness.

    8. Volunteer. If you want to help yourself, try helping others - by engaging in charitable activities. Not only does it make you feel valuable, but also you see other people doing good deeds, and that makes you feel better. It makes you realize the world can be a good place.

    9. Give it time. Surveys have found that reported happiness tends to be U-shaped through life, with folks becoming increasingly grumpy as they approach their 40s and than recovering from there. Maybe our happiness gradually declines as we fail to fulfill our youthful ambitions, only to revive once we accept our lot in life. Alternatively, maybe this midlife unhappiness reflects the time pressures faced by those in their 40s, as they juggle work and family. But whatever the reason, you are likely to grow happier as you grow older. Not sure any of the first eight tips will do the trick? Maybe you just need to give it time.
    posted by Kathy Reesor at 5:15 PM
  • http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2006/Nov/26/op/FP611260314.html

    Posted on: Sunday, November 26, 2006


    COMMENTARY
    Ah, the good life — even when the years creep up

    By Garrison Keillor



    As you get older and you can afford to eat well, your metabolism shrinks to that of a common warbler. A cruel irony. That is why, at pricey restaurants, you see old coots pay $35 for a big white plate with three scallops on it and a dollop of rice and some emulsified celery. That is all the food they need, plus a pipkin of prune pate for dessert. They are not ranch hands after all. They're not NFL linemen. But eating habits die hard, and the holidays roll around, and the old guys shuffle up to the chow line and load up, and around midnight they are whinnying in their stalls, begging to be shot and put out of their misery.

    The same happens with sex, not that we need to discuss this or anything. And something similar with work: You try harder than ever and keep falling farther behind. So gluttony and lust and pride start to fade late in life. So does anger. You can still work up a lather about the Current Occupant, that strange narcissistic man with the attention span of a 12-year-old, a national embarrassment whenever he travels abroad, but Bush-bashing is like slapping cockroaches with a slipper. After six years of it, you're done: It's time to find a new apartment.

    Greed is persistent, of course, maybe worse, but who has time for sloth nowadays? And envy truly fades. Photographers line up behind barriers yelling, "Over here! This way! This way!" and a starlet climbs out of a limo, in a bright red dress with a neckline down to her gall bladder, and she looks this way and flashes her fifty-dollar smile, and briefly you envy her and wish you looked that good in bright light, and then you walk on and you try to remember her name and the movie she was in — what was that about?

    Last Sunday at church we walked up to Communion as two teenage boys played electric guitars. They were so busy being observed and maintaining their cool, they didn't notice how amazingly out of tune they were. Their pants hung as low as pants can hang as they praised the Lord in several keys at once, all sleepy and full of attitude and their hair hanging down, but I was moved by them. I really got caught up in the moment — you know how it is, sometimes perfection can irritate you and some dopey thing knocks your socks off — because, hey, it isn't Sweden, it's America! They struck me as messengers of grace, possibly angels, though I wouldn't want to carry that too far. I knelt at the altar next to my sandy-haired gap-toothed daughter, who is afraid someone will make her drink the wine, so she crosses her arms and looks forbidding. The lady with the wafers puts her hand on my girl's head and she winces.

    It's a good life. A November morning and you walk home under the bare trees, listening to a frenzy of questions — Why do we live here? Why do other people live in California? — and you open the door to the smell of coffee and cinnamon. You make a fire in the fireplace and ease yourself into an old easy chair that has conformed to your own back and haunches, and dutifully you read the paper, but then you look over the top of the front page at the soft light streaming in, the delicate browns and yellows and greens of fall, the quiet street.

    If you had some paint, you could make a painting of this, if you were a painter. You could entitle it "November Morning, 2006" and 50 years from now at the Museum of Old Stuff, a teenage boy on a field trip with his media class might look at it and think, "Cool." Teenage boys will be wearing something like jumpsuits then, with the waist up around their nipples and flared collars and two-tone hair and a pocket watch with a 4-foot gold chain and clear plastic shoes with curly toes. What they see in the painting is exactly what your heart desired, a quiet life among autumnal people. The mess that was on the front page back then is all forgotten, wars, legislatures, judges, trivia, but the lovely world of oaks and yard and boulevard is of permanent interest.

    Thank you, dear Lord, for this good life and forgive us if we do not enjoy it enough.

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